Realizations about Relationships

Living with roommates has been really great for me the past few months. We've had friends and family come stay with us, we've been able to cook and clean together, we've had to furnish the place (something I never had to do at BYU), but most of all, we've had to learn how to deal with each other.

For all but my freshman year at BYU, I've never shared my room. Every place I lived had enough space that I could get away from my roommates when necessary which allowed for me to avoid conflict. This is still pretty much the case. Thankfully, I've managed to never argue with my roommates. I was lucky that at a young age I had amazing siblings and parents, and teachers, who taught me (however rough it was at times) that I can't just say things when they come to my mind. Emotions are important and I need to be sensitive to how other people feel as a result of what I say. Maybe its all the disagreements I had with my mom in high school and during the last year and a half when I moved back home. Regardless of the reason, I am thankful it is something I've learned and am continuing to improve upon.

This knowledge is not a blessing that I can say all my roommates have gained yet. They are trying, but it is definitely a process. It takes time to learn how to brush things off and not be offended. Maybe I've been blessed to not be very emotional and that's why I can do it most of the time. I don't know, I've just seen a lot happen lately that makes me very grateful for the lessons I've learned to this point. I know I am no where close to perfect in my reactions and my words. I definitely know I can be more compassionate with what I say to people, even if what I am saying is true. I have a lot to work on, but I'm glad I'm on my way!